5 Ways to Love Your Body Exactly As It Is
Truly loving your body is extremely important for your inner peace and happiness. I practice, as well as teach these 5 ways to love your body to all my girls with stunning results. Whether they are A-List movie stars or everyday hardworking women, the super attractive confidence, sense of self-assurance and self-worth they start to radiate makes me and the people around them just go wow! I get so excited when I see women finally love and accept their bodies as well as who they are. We then watch all the new amazing opportunities, people and abundance that start coming into their lives from this simple mindset change. So, I’m here to show you how easy this is to do, so you can bring the same into YOUR life.
This Valentines Day, I want you to have a date with yourself! I want you to spend this day and every day after, loving and cherishing YOU! It is now time to choose to believe that you have the right to be respected, treated with dignity and that you are worth taking care of – and to now start acting like it! It’s all about self-love and here is exactly how you do it:
#1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
I find that this is every woman’s biggest downfall. Of course there will always be another woman who you think has better hair than you, a perfect body, better teeth, is taller, and well the list goes on. The reality is though, even celebrities and models that have been labelled with the media’s “perfect body” (though who decides what the perfect body is anyway?) still have parts of their body that they dislike. They don’t necessarily have high self-esteem either. So no matter how close-to-perfection a body you have, chances are, there is something you would change about it if you could. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way, so instead of being jealous of other women and being stuck in the comparison game, be stronger by supporting and congratulating her and bringing your focus back to YOUR strengths. As women, we need to start working as a supportive team, instead of against each other. Confidence in yourself is the most attractive, sexy quality you can have anyway so be proud of what you have got!
Did you know that most of the images you see in magazines, television and movies aren’t even real? A magazine cover model has professional stylists, goes through hours of professional make-up and hair design, uses top photographers who know her “best side”, professional lighting to make her glow, and that’s all before the chosen photo goes to a company where they remove wrinkles, blemishes, extra curves and stray hairs. So don’t even bother comparing your beautiful, real self to these fake images because what you see is totally made up!
#2. Stop your damaging self talk.
I do a lot of emotional healing work with my girls, as some past experiences, your beliefs about yourself, what you tell yourself and what other people have said about you in the past can be damaging. This DOES NOT mean that they need to rule your life though. Your subconscious mind is always listening and making unconscious programs by which you live your life. Therefore, it is so important to make sure that what you are telling yourself in your mind about your body and about who you are as a person, is loving, forgiving, supportive and nurturing. Your subconscious will control your happiness if you let it, and what you tell yourself becomes your reality.
Practice Mirror Work
Louise Hay’s amazing activity of Mirror Work is so powerful to break down damaging self-talk, as well as a fantastic way to really start loving yourself. Louise tells us to look in the mirror, directly in your eyes, everyday and repeat the phrase “I love you “insert your name” Thank you for being my best friend and the one I can count on. I totally and completely love and accept you just as you are.”
Most people I teach Mirror Work to start laughing at this point and I hear “Oh I can’t do that, how silly’. At the start it may feel awkward and embarrassing and take some time for you to start believing what you are saying. In time though you will re-train your thought process to be more positive and you will notice a huge difference in your life, your happiness levels and also how other people are now responding to you. Also, when a negative thought about yourself enters your head, take a deep breath, release it, and repeat the above positive affirmation in its place. For more affirmations and guidance from Louise Hay, visit www.louisehay.com.
#3. Celebrate your body for what it can do.
Your body is such a miracle and should be celebrated! Every minute there are millions of microscopic functions that go on in our bodies without any thought involved in the processes that keep you alive. They just happen! Your body is so amazing, so instead of worrying about how large your thighs are, thank them for letting you walk, run, bend and move around in the world. Instead of worrying about how flabby your arms are, thank them for the ability to carry your children or pets and do everyday tasks such as lifting and hugging.
Your body is a miracle to treasure.
Unfortunately, it can often take something drastic such as an illness, a debilitating accident, a tragedy or close call with death for some women to realise that their bodies weren’t so bad to begin with and that their body hang-ups were a big waste of time. Don’t let that be the case with you! I don’t want you to spend your valuable time on Earth worrying about your abs, your weight, your body shape or how big your butt is. There are much more important things to be grateful for and to be focusing on. Concentrate now on your purpose in life, the legacy you want to leave and your true potential to achieve something spectacular in life. When you have this gratitude for your body as a miracle, it becomes a pleasure to treat it with care by exercising it and eating healthy. Which brings me to my next point…
#4. Take care of your body.
The simple truth is: if you love your body, you’ll want to treat it right. If you’re only preoccupied with punishing your body with exercise you don’t enjoy or talking to yourself with negative self-talk for being too fat or too unhealthy, you’re not treating yourself with compassion and respect. Instead, when you choose what food to eat, I want you to think about what your body wants and needs to fuel itself and to feel good. When you feed your body nourishing food so that you always feel your best, you also remove the worries and possibility of disease and poor health. So, exercise to relieve the daily stresses of life, to release endorphins, to fight anxiety, and to feel good. Eat alkaline, nutrient rich foods to fight off cancer and disease. Meditate to get in touch with your emotions, to connect with the bigger picture, and to feel at peace.
Recognize what your body really needs.
Pay attention to what your body is telling you and any bad choices (especially the food ones) will be obvious. If you feel great after exercise, then exercise more! If gluten irritates your gut, cut back! It’s really as simple and straightforward as that. Quick-fixes, diets, pills, binging, over-exercising, not exercising, all these things disrespect one of the greatest gifts you have been given – your body! You only get one body in this lifetime so it is now time to treat it with love and the utmost respect. When you do, you will want to give your body the healthy choices that it deserves and you will not only feel better, but also you might even become someone else’s role model!
#5. Be a role model for your kids.
My last way to love yourself is important for you but also for the next generation of people coming into this media-driven and stressful world. We all know how influential parents and adult role models are on children. So, whether you have kids, want to have them someday, or are simply just a role model for children, it’s important to know that the way you talk about your image and see yourself, shapes the way that these kids will talk to and see themselves when they’re adults. Do you want your daughter or son to look in the mirror and criticize their body each day? If not, it’s important that you don’t display that behavior. Apparently, who we are as people and how we participate in the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will turn out than what we know about parenting. These same rules apply for body image, so set a great example for them to follow.
I hope you can now see how easy it is for you to start radiating self-love and confidence. From now on, starting with these 5 steps, I want you to stop comparing yourself to others, obsessing over external appearances and obsessing about obtaining an ideal look, which we know now does not exist. Rid yourself of negative self-talk and practice your Mirror Work daily. Have gratitude for the miracle that is your body. Don’t wait for a near-death wake up call to realise how valuable your body is. Focus now on the way being healthy and active makes you feel and what it gives you. You will have a much higher motivation to stay on track with healthy eating and exercise with this gratitude. You’ll also begin to lose tolerance for the way unhealthy choices make you feel.
This new way of looking at diet and exercise – as something wonderful you do for yourself, rather than a way to punish yourself, will be the most worthwhile attitude you’ll ever adopt. Unfortunately, our society tries to condition people to feel badly about themselves, put themselves down in front of others and criticize their uniqueness and originality. You have to remember that if you choose to ignore this and love yourself just as you are, you will become the best version of yourself while radiating an attractive confidence that EVERYONE will notice. These 5 ways to love yourself will get you there and believe me – it’s worth it!